It is so easy in our society to get caught up in all the things that are going wrong in one’s life. The feelings of inadequacy, guilt, the overwhelming feeling of never being able to do enough, to always wanting to give more. They say every coin has two sides and when you flip the coin you begin to realize, it is just as easy to be grateful for every single blessing this life has given us.

The problem is we often don’t open our eyes long enough to see things for truly what they are, beautiful, yes just the way they are. Every moment, every minute, every second we are on this earth we are blessed to be able to take another step, a step in the right direction. There will always be negativity, there will always be drama and chaos but when you stop looking at it, looking for it, it fades into the background until it suddenly fades away. If you do not invite darkness into your path you will always walk in the light. If you surround yourself with good with positive people and positive energy,  the bad will quickly not have a place to rest and will slowly dissipate. A process no doubt, but one truly worth the effort.

If you could choose happiness, if you could chose hope, if you could choose faith, if you could choose love,  the question is would you? How much would you sacrifice in order to live this way. Would you choose giving up on all those negative people who burden you with their negative energy’s, with their idle gossip,  with their pessimistic attitudes?  Ask yourself what are they bringing into your life? What and who am I choosing to surround myself with? The energy you are left with when you are done interacting with those certain people…does it refresh you or drain you? Make you happy or feel depressed?  Then ask yourself the tougher question, why am I bringing this negative energy into my life?

What is stopping me from living the life I have always imagined?

Nine out of ten times it is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of truly seeing yourself for what you truly are, fear of the unspoken word, fear of others opinions, the fear of being disappointed & hurt.

Lets for once stop and look fear straight in the face. The Budhist’s preach that the more you walk into the fear the quicker it will dissipate.  For fear only comes from uncertainties. Yet, we must travel in the direction of our fear. Take time to sit with the feeling. Take a moment to get to know yourself. I promise the uknown is not that scary.  Let it bring feelings of exhilaration, let it stimulate your curiosity, leave you feeling refreshed and hopeful, stop being such a cynic!!!

The fear of seeing yourself as you truly are should excite you!  You had your best friend with you this whole time and you didn’t even know it!

Fear of the unspoken word and of others opinions somewhat go hand in hand. Why fear what people say, for it is only their opinion and if you have already done the previous step and now truly see yourself for the beautiful, newly inspired person you are; who cares what they think or say! True friends already know how incredible you are in the first place and the believer of their stories (and they are just that tales spun out of fiction a good 99% of the time) the believer of their stories is just someone intrigued by the drama of their tale. Either way it is nothing that should concern you or even slightly bother you! Let them have their strong opinions,  the only one they are weighing down is themselves! Keep giving everyone the benefit of the doubt. The next time when someone is spinning a pretty tale let them know that you are not interested in idle gossip or the dramatic tale they have spun. Most of the time, it is to make themselves feel better or they are simply  bored. Either way it is the inner workings of their small, sick mind, feel compassion for them & love them regardless.

For we should have the strongest compassion for those people we deem as our enemies. For that is the only way to cease hatred, to stand on a common ground, to truly know love.

As far as the fear of being dissapointed and hurt, we don’t live in a fairy tale world, there will always be some disappointment and hurt.  Yet, it is what you do with it that is significant! If the pain you are experiencing is coming from another human being, do you learn from it and vow to never bring such pain on another? Do you allow it to make you stronger and therefor a better person? Or do you seek revenge and the need to hurt another?

If you have sat long enough with yourself to get to know yourself truly,  you will understand that most of the time we bring the hurt upon ourselves. What you ask? Completely untrue and unfounded. She or he did this to me! No, you chose to let there words affect you in the manner that it did, therefor bringing on hurt and suffering to yourself.  Wether it be a conscience decision or not, the point is most of the time we allow ourselves to fall into this very sticky trap. It therefor becomes our job to be careful as to how we let others words & actions affect us, and in return to be equally as careful with our own words & actions as to not hurt another.

In a world were our human make up, our human genes from one person to the next are 99.9% the same, why can’t we realize that our similarities far outweigh our differences?


Perhaps, we will someday until then treat everyone with compassion & respect, choose love not hatred,  rise above fear,  pursue happiness,  your dreams, and have faith that the rest will soon follow. Remember it’s a process not a quick destination, be patient.

-Hanna  Dunn 03/08/2010

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